We get a double-whammy here: the idea that all Asian women are submissive man-pleasers held in subjugation by chauvinist Asian men who will only abuse them, cheat on them and (super classy move, bro) her from all that and put her up on the pedestal where she deserves to be.
So maybe he’s ignorant but his heart is in the right place, right? Much like the first creeper, this isn’t about her as a person, it’s about his idea of what Asian women are like.
(Obligatory ass covering: I’m a cisgendered, heterosexual white guy talking about racial issues.
Odds are good I’m going to inadvertently shove my foot in my mouth at high speed.
In and of itself, finding people attractive is neutral; your junk is into what your junk is into, no harm no foul.
We all have types that turn our cranks more than others.
Racial fetishism covers the length and breadth of ethnic groups – there are people who fetishize African-American women, Latinas…
His belief that Asian women are the “best” isn’t because of a love of, say, Thailand’s long and amazing history and rich culture, it’s based off the idea that an Asian woman unlike those uppity white, black and latina women with their insistence on crazy notions like “equality” and “mutual respect”.
In other words: he’s hoping for a pretty, Asian fucktoy who will submit to his every whim, clean his house, cook his food and let him parade her around with his of another ethnic group and trying to set yourself in opposition to them.
Instead, he’s asking to apply – as though for a job – but only if she meets his stringent requirements. that doesn’t mean that it’s a compliment; it reduces a person from an individual to a collection of stereotypes and presumptions based on race, ethnicity and cultural background.
His ideas of what Asian women are like are based off the idea that south-east Asian women are docile and submissive – regardless of whether she’s Chinese, Mongolian, Thai, Vietnamese, Indonesian, Hmong, Korean, Japanese or Pacific Islander… Not only is he trading on racist stereotypes, he’s betraying just how goddamn ignorant he is of her cultural background.