The few people I’ve really sparked with are all in relationships.
I’m lonely and very different, I’m eccentric, have eccentric tastes and I’m a lot more mature then most people I meet in most social settings (I’ve been regularly mistaken for 40 when I was 18) I’m also a romantic whose entire cultural upbringing utterly rejects the idea of genders freely mixing and all that cabal. I can out-argue almost anyone and I can debate exceptionally well but I’ve zero social skills that aren’t an argument, sports or one of my passions (which many people do not like) I’m regularly putting my foot in it in casual conversations and I have been told in the past that I am far far too intense.
I hated the idea of feelings and I shut them out and didn’t do friends (ironically this is when I received most attention from the females).
For most of my teenage years, I didn’t need people and I didn’t need love.
They don’t have a choice but to be driven and faithful, because their whole young life is just them and God. This approach allows you to date, have steady boyfriends/girlfriends, and express your affection for them in sweet but safe (and Christian) ways.
Anything beyond holding hands/kissing is going to be too tempting and violate your pact to be abstinent.
You can be friends with members of the opposite sex, but nothing more than that until you’re ready to marry somebody. They are putting all of their chips on God, even moreso than others who are waiting till marriage but still allowing themselves to date. It’s OK to date and be romantically interested in members of the opposite sex.
Everything but intercourse is allowed (oral sex, etc.).Creativity is encouraged to keep things fun and interesting over a long-term relationship without crossing the line (having sex).You can be waiting till marriage and still be sexual. This allows you to experience relatively full romantic relationships (complete with a decent amount of physical intimacy) while still saving that one big thing for the love of your life to share only with each other.I’m literally petrified of making the same mistake again and of ever hurting another living soul again, I’ve been bad, I’ve made mistakes and I’ve taken advantage of people, now I’m trying, very hard not to be that person again and that includes treating women as people, with thoughts and feelings, hopes and fears and dreams.It’s difficult in the uni dorm I’m in, considering most people I meet socially are either drunk (I’m stone cold sober) or do the whole ‘one night stand’ routine which to me is appalling.They maintain their innocence and that helps them not cross the line.“Holding Hands & Kissing Only” people can often find themselves conflicted about what is OK and what is not in their romantic relationships.People using this method often run into value conflicts with the people they get into relationships with.The only good match is another “everthing but” person, and that’s hard to find in the circles that these people typically run.She wasn’t the nicest person and took advantage of me, but I hurt her feelings and I made sure when I came to my senses that I apologized, regardless of what she’d done, I messed up.Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.