(I think they call this "failure to launch.") I went out all the time and hung out with my other guy friends who had really attractive girlfriends, but I was the pitiful "lonely guy" of the group that would hardly ever get a phone number or date.
And if I did get a date, it always ended up as "friends" at the end, because I was such a "Nice Guy." But I'd also look at my guy friends who had cool girlfriends and think, "He's not all that great looking, or all that smart." So How In The World Were These Other Guys I asked myself that over and over again.
It was very tempting to give up and just write women off completely. If there were things other guys were doing that could get women interested in them, I could figure out what that was, and then learn it and use it myself. The truth is that once you do figure out the method they're using (and I eventually did), it's simple.
I had been learning songs on guitar for years, just by getting the sheet music and copying the notes, so why would this be any different? Lesson 1: Attraction is Not Something You're Taught. You just need to learn from someone that knows how to explain it right. But the funny thing about attraction is that it does work by predictable laws.
Just look at the girl and ask her to tell you how everyone in her group knows each other.
You can say this: "Hey, before you run out of cool things to talk about, tell me... " If you listen closely, what she says will give you at least ten new subjects that you can then talk with her and her friends about - their jobs, their history, all the juicy stuff you can use for a good conversation. Plus, by getting her friends back in on the conversation, you avoid that "creepy guy hitting on their friend" situation.
The most important thing for you to do is to get what I call "Fast Success." I'm not talking about the kind that you were warned about by your Jedi grandfather, who told you to "beware of the easy path." Fast Success is getting you results as quickly as possible so So your first step is to learn the basic skills so you can get those quick victories and teach your "unconscious mind" that you can do this.
I was meeting the occasional girl, but I wasn't able to get anything off the ground.I call this technique "Tease to Please", and it works because it short-circuits a woman's usual defense mechanisms against meeting 'strange' men.You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defensive shields against meeting new men or letting them into her life.Just find one thing about her that you can tease her about as an introduction.Don't make it cruel, but make it clear that you're not intimidated by her beauty. If you're reading her body language well enough, you'll be able to take this as far as you want.IMPORTANT NOTE: Most guys will be afraid of making a woman mad, and will Do you ever feel like attraction between you and a woman is like some kind of magic 'trick'...?And that it's something cool that you can see other guys do, but you'll never really "get it"?Well, I can tell you from years of experience that you're not alone, and you're not as lost as you might feel.When you feel like you're not as good as other guys are with women, it hits you right in the middle of who you are as a man.I started to get really frustrated, and then I even got angry with women over it.I felt myself blaming them for my situation, even though I knew they weren't the problem.