7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you dont feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.

If you dont trust now, this wont change when you are married!

Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised.

When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?

The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to that time is spent.